**Update**My sisters marriage - is over. This last weekend we found out that my sisters husband is still cheating on her with the same girl. He was caught at a restaurant by my best friend Rachel and her husband Tom who happen to be good friends with both Heidi and Jeff. This is it for Heidi. She plans on getting legal counsel, though Jeff threatened that he was going to file for divorce last monday. The kids found out Monday afternoon. Jeff came over and with both sets of grandparents there to be a support to the kids, Jeff told them that he no longer loved mommy and loved another woman instead and that he was going to leave. My dad who was witness to this said it was the most heart wrenching thing he's ever witnessed! He said it was the sound of hearts being torn out and ripped in half. It was so emotionally draining that he couldn't understand how Jeff could continue on the path he was taking knowing how he was hurting his children. :( Heidi has not been alone since this happened. Rachel and Tom spent the night Saturday night, Heidi and the kids spent the night at our house sunday night, she plans on spending the night with Jeff's mom (who even thinks her own son has lost it)... and so on... The whole thing is sick and saddening. I feel like this is all a dream and that there is no way a man I could respect turned into this! And I can only imagine how my sister feels! She told me the other morning she just feels like she's going to wake up from this horrible dream but it's not a dream. It's her reality. Jeff has lost all his sense. I am sickened by the whole situation.
And as the week has progressed since this has happened I have found myself feeling more sorry for Jeff then anything. When he opens his eyes, *if* he ever opens his eyes, I wouldn't want to be in his shoes as he sees what he has done. That in itself could break him. I know God can do his work. I still have some hope that he will turn from his sin. But right now my life is devoted to my sister and those kids! Jeff needs to break and it isn't going to be a fun time for him. I do feel sorry for him. But I know God will never leave him and will continue to try and draw him back.
The Place - So last Thursday at noon the church had no options. By 12:45 we had unlimited possibilities! It's amazing how God moves! Basically we have some property but don't have enough funds to build a church. We had hoped to sell the property or even trade it for rent at a location for a certain amount of time. Well no one was biting on those opportunities. The place we wanted isn't available until Dec 1. So we really weren't sure what to do. Turns out the guy we currently rent from called my dad saying that he was willing to work with us and whatever we do please don't move! So basically begged us to stay at our current location. He said he wouldn't make us pay double our current rent but would give us a deal, still higher then we are currently paying but reasonable. That was option 1. He said he would even trade the property for half cash (50,000) and we could rent where we're currently at for 2 years rent free and couldn't stress enough how they didn't want us to move! So that's option 2! Then the person we were trying to go through to sell our property called my dad 20 min later and said that he had two offers, one too low and another one he felt would give us what we're asking, which means we could sell the property, rent the current place till dec 1 then move to the larger location and with the money from the property pay for rent for 2 1/2 years. This location is larger and more pricey so it wouldn't last us as long. That was option 3. When our current landlords found out about our offer they said they were in no position to make a true offer that day but that we could stay there RENT FREE till they come up with an offer! Goodness! Talk about a miracle! My dad had just taken his lunch break and prayed soley that God would open the doors for us to find a place to have church. And within minutes the doors were WIDE open! The cool part about all this, is we're in a win,win,win situation. No matter what direction we make out with a good deal! hehe :-D
So that's a HUGE weight lifted off our shoulders.
Work - Well it's been overwhelming and I am starting to get a handle on things. But considering that I'm at work I should probably go for now. I will update more another time.
posted by Charity at 10/06/2005 11:25:00 AM 
